Coping with infertility during the festive season – a practical guide

The end of the year can also act as a marker in time – a point that highlights how much has happened over the past twelve months or how much remains unchanged – which can intensify emotions, especially when fertility plans haven’t unfolded as hoped.

If the season isn’t feeling festive, that is completely okay. Social traditions aren’t fixed, and your wellbeing deserves to come first. The following strategies can help you move through the coming weeks in a way that feels more manageable.

Manage social expectations

Turning down invitations can feel uncomfortable, yet protecting your emotional space is important. Keep responses simple and polite to avoid unnecessary pressure – a brief ‘Sorry, that plan doesn’t suit me’ allows you to step back without oversharing.

Prepare for gatherings

If you decide to attend a social event, a few gentle boundaries can make the experience easier:

• Set a time limit that feels comfortable – even a short visit counts
• Stay occupied with tasks, such as cooking or helping with tidying, to avoid conversations that feel difficult
• Acknowledge that the year has been challenging without going into detail, which helps others understand if you need to leave early.

If you’re attending with a trusted person, consider agreeing on a subtle signal that indicates you need a break. Planning transport in advance can also offer a smoother exit if emotions shift.

Celebrate your way

There is no one ‘correct’ way to spend the holiday season. A quiet night at home, a short getaway, or a relaxed catch-up with close friends may feel more grounding. Joy can take many forms, and it doesn’t need to look traditional.

Prioritise rest and self-care

Use this time to rest, recharge and step back from the intensity of treatment. Some options that may support your wellbeing include:

• Booking a massage or spa day
• Taking a short trip to the beach or countryside
• Enjoying a good book, movie marathon or creative pastime.

Give yourself permission to slow down and look after your emotional and physical wellbeing.

Reflect and plan ahead

The close of the year can be an opportunity to gently reassess your journey. You may find clarity by breaking bigger decisions into smaller, more manageable steps. Consider what choices may be available to you in 2026, how you can continue prioritising your wellbeing, and what actions could help you reset and begin the new year with renewed energy and perspective.

Reach out for support

Support is invaluable when emotions become heavy. Lean on friends, family (pets included!) or a trusted support person whenever you need space to talk or simply feel heard. Let others know what would help, whether it’s company, calm or room to process things in your own time.

Whatever this season looks like for you, your feelings are valid. Treat yourself with patience and kindness as you move through it.

If you’d like professional support, the Newlife IVF counselling team is here to help. Call us on (03) 8080 8933 or email [email protected].